Offered a job in Singapore, is the higher pay worth leaving family in JB?

I've commuted from JB to Singapore for 4 years, so let me be honest. The SGD salary converted to RM is life-changing, no doubt, my savings grew way faster than any local job could. BUT the daily causeway commute is soul-crushing, waking up at 4:30am to beat the jam, getting home at 8-9pm, barely seeing my kid awake on weekdays. Some friends rent a room in SG to avoid the commute but then they're away from family all week. It's a real trade-off between money and time with family. My advice: do it for a defined period, like 3-5 years to build savings, then reassess. Don't let it become a permanent grind where you become a stranger to your own kids. Money is easier to earn back than time with a young child.

My husband works in Singapore and we're based in JB, so from the family side: it's worth it financially but it takes real teamwork and communication. The strong SGD means we could pay off our house faster and save for our kid's education, things impossible on a JB salary alone. The hard part is he's exhausted from the commute and I handle most of the parenting on weekdays, which strained us at first. What made it work: he does one thing meaningful with our child every morning before leaving, and weekends are strictly family time, no work. Set financial goals with a clear end date so it doesn't drag forever. Also factor in CPF/tax rules as a foreigner and health coverage. Go in as a team with a plan, not just chasing the exchange rate.